Lessons From My Ex-Boyfriends
Being in love is a deep and intense emotional experience. Getting connected to an entirely different individual or deeper level and exploring each other’s worlds is indeed an exciting phase of life. However, love also comes at the risk of heartbreaks that can leave scars for a very long time. Wounds do heal over time, but the scars left behind remain to remind you of the lessons that were learnt. And sometimes those lessons will be the people who you have once loved immensely.
Most of us have had our fair share of experiences in the game of love, and we sure have learned a lot from them. Here are a few personal experiences from my collection of lost experiences that I would never want to revisit.
Quit Before It’s Too Late
Sometimes deep down you’re quite aware that after multiple breakups and makeups, something’s just not right. Your lover might have made promises to change his attitude and you may even have started seeing them.
Trust your experience and instinct in such scenarios and do not risk spending your life with a potentially toxic partner. So if you’re unsure about your partner, it’s OKAY to slow down and take a break from the game.
Run If You Smell Control
Controlling behaviour is a toxic trait in any relationship. Being in a relationship with a controlling partner can be emotionally challenging and damaging to your mental health. These individuals attempt to manipulate and dominate their partners through actions and decisions.
Once they succeed, their partners may be confined to isolation, and tortured with jealousy, and are often backed with manipulation, verbal and emotional abuse, threats and intimidation, and loss of decision-making control. So sisters, if you come across someone with similar symptoms, run and don’t look back!
No Orgasms, Say Goodbye
Orgasms must be a two-way thing, even if it doesn’t occur at the same time. However, it is essential for partners to keep each other’s orgasms in check, and if you’re dating someone who doesn’t care about your pleasure, then he’s not worth your love, time, or attention.
Think Twice About Long Distance
Living separately is hard enough for couples, and long-distance is horrible.
Distance can transform relationships, sometimes for the better and other times for the worse. Before signing up for a long-distance relationship, make sure it’s worth the wait and you are really ready for the extra effort that comes along with it.
Be on The Same Page
The sense of being understood is one of the aspects that make a relationship unique(and that requires communication). However, there are scenarios where you might feel that you understand your partner completely, and that might even be true. But before drawing conclusions, it’s always better to have a conversation to be sure of each other’s expectations from your relationship. After all, being on the safe side is never going to harm anyone.
Do Not Date a Kid
Staying single is better than having a boyfriend who is not sure about himself. If he is not certain of what he wants in life or from the relationship, there is the possibility that sooner or later, he may not be too sure about you as well.
If He Forgets Communication, You Forget Him
Waiting for months to see your partner and not knowing his whereabouts the entire time can drive you nuts, and push you into a never-ending loop, which, of course, will never be good for you in the long run.
People Change
No matter how good your relationship is, all of us change with time. This transition may not be an immediate one, but something that happens slowly yet steadily and builds over time. One day, you might wake up and find that you no longer know or understand the person you love, and that is life.
