8 Unrealistic Expectations That Porn Has Taught Us

Pornography has often served as the initial introduction to the world of sexuality for a lot of people. Though, we may not remember how we ventured into it, it has been a part of our lives for a very long time and has even evolved to shape our perspectives around physical intimacy.

However, during the explorative phase, one cannot distinguish between ethical porn and non-ethical ones on the internet and this has raised numerous concerns too. Besides that porn is also known for being over dramatic and setting up unrealistic expectations, which has diverted significantly from real-life experiences – setting unattainable standards around physical intimacy.

As we surf the internet, people have shared their experiences of what these unrealistic standards are like and we have summed up a few.

1. We are natural experts

There is never one singular definition for good sex and it differs with people and their perspectives. And just like any other physical activity, we can’t be a pro right from the very first time. 

Sex is a whole world of possibilities and not everyone can get it right the first time. People fall off the bed or struggle with positions all the time. And normal people like us,  laugh it off and get back to business if they’re still in the mood. 

2. Women experience orgasms just through penetrative sex

One of the biggest lies ever portrayed on screen. Most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. Foreplay is the technique to get started and don’t forget to pay attention to the clitoris!

3. Extremely fit physiques

We come in different shapes and sizes and that’s what makes us unique.

Comparing ourselves to these actors is never the right way to go about it as you may get conscious around your partner and this will affect the overall mood. Remember, you are beautiful the way you are. Period.

4. No Acrobatics, zero fun

Not all sex positions that you see on the internet are as easy as they look. Actors get trained to put their skills on display and there is no pressure as such on them.

Also, comfortable positions are nothing short of fun and there’s no one-size-fits-all in the game of pleasure!

5. Rubbing the clitoris to start a fire

Trust us, the rampant rubbing of the clitoris does not help anyone.

Porn might tell you otherwise because that’s what they want people to believe. More the action, the better right?

However, that’s not how it is. The clitoris is super sensitive and if you mimic porn, you might even end up hurting your partner.

6. The “perfect” vaginas

We have all seen them – the spotless and ‘clean’ / shaved vaginas with a lighter skin tone. 

No, that’s not how real vaginas look(unless they have undergone treatment procedures). And if you are looking for one, chances are high you may never find them.

7. Anal is smooth

All the back-and-forth action looks seamless, doesn’t it?

But it never is. This could involve pre and post-cleanup, pain(in the absence of ample lube), and altogether a confused feeling. 

8. On and on you go

Hours and hours of sex without a break is an IMPOSSIBLE task. Be it men or women, it’s just not happening. 

Sex is an intense physical activity that can tire any human out and none of us are superhumans. So take it slow, and have fun on the go!

Human experiences and bodies are quite diverse and attempting to conform to the exaggerated portrayals of porn can result in insecurities and an absence of genuine connection. Therefore, any form of sexual intimacy should be grounded on consent, communication, and understanding individual preferences rather than on fictional movies that make no sense in reality.